Should She Listen to His Ex?

Peter and Molly,
I started dating "Luke" six months ago, and things have been going very well. He is kind and treats me as though I'm the most important person in the room at all times. He is very chivalrous and attends church with me often, he says he goes every week, and when I've attended his ward haven't seen anything to tell me differently.  He has started talking to me about marriage, and I am thinking about it. Last week a woman "Isabelle" called me. She said that she had heard from a friend of a friend of a friend that I was dating Luke and so she wanted to call and warn me. She said that she broke up with him about six months ago, that he had taken her virginity, and left her with credit card debt, and had cheated on her. I didn't know what to say to her, and I don't know what to do now. I don't want to accuse my boyfriend just because I had a stranger call me, but even if I did he could easily deny the charges even if they're true. I'm worried. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Mr. Right or Wrong

Molly: Dear Right or Wrong, the first thing you need to do is ask, and get it out there. Explain to him what happened, and say that you're not accusing him, but you're wondering who Isabelle even is. Anyone could lie, but that's always the risk we take when we date someone. Don't rush into marriage. See how he responds to your question, meet his family and friends. Don't let this one event make you change your decision, but do take it into account, and see if there are other signs that support what Isabelle said.

Peter: I'd be a little more aggressive than Molly suggests. I know that Luke is charming, but charming and manipulative are often two peas in a pod. Being active in church is not the same as being righteous, as you seem to suggest. I would call Isabelle back, and explain that you don't want to end your relationship because of a strangers accusations but that you would be interested in seeing her evidence, particularly of the credit card fraud. I would also, of course, look for other signs. If you decide to end the relationship, make sure you do it when you are in a place with others who can support you such as friends or family.

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How Can 16 Year Old Let Everyone Know She's Available?

Peter and Molly,
I'm a junior in High School, and will be turning 16 the day before Prom. I'm very excited, and hope to go and enjoy myself, but of course I'm still not going out on any dates, and up until this point I have been trying to shoo away those interested in asking me on dates because I couldn't go with them. Tickets just went on sale so I have over a month, but how can I announce to the world, "I would love a prom date" without seeming weird or desperate.

Thanks,
 New Dater

Peter: Dater, you reverse course, and start going back to all those boys who wanted to take you out, you bat your eyes, ask them about prom, say longingly how you wish someone cute like him would ask you, and then wait for the cards to fall. It won't take long.

Molly: While Peter's approach may shock the school into recognizing your new availability, I'm not sure if it meets your requirement to not seem weird or desperate. This is a task to which close girlfriends are especially adept. Have them simply put word out that you're finally available, and if you have a preference as to your date, allow them to plant it as part of the rumor. Guys can't resist a gal that wants them, and while the high school gossip chain is usually a tool for evil, there's no reason we can't use it for good.

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Facebook Friend Mom?

Peter and Molly,
So I'm 15, I'm not like a little kid that snuck onto facebook, I did it totally legit, I set up my account, and got all my friends, and then the next day my Mom wants to be my friend, she says it's so that she can see everything I'm doing on facebook. So I didn't do anything, and then the next day, she's all like if you don't accept my friend request, you lose your facebook privilege? What? What's the point of having a facebook if you're mom is  watching everything you do? What can I tell her so that she'll back off?
-Friendless

Peter: Dear Friendless, you can say thank you so much for the facebook privilege mom, I'll do whatever you'd like. Honestly, if you don't want her to write cute messages on your wall that all your friends can see, ask if you can give her your account password, that way she can look in and make sure everything's okay, without you having to admit to your real friends, that your facebook friends with Mom.

Molly: I think the point wasn't how to avoid being friends but how to get some privacy. You must have felt like your Mom finally gave you this wonderful gift of growing up and then took it away. Talk to her about it, explain that you want a little bit of internet freedom, and come to a compromise. Understand she just wants what's best for you, and internet safety is important. See if you can make a deal, where you'll only facebook where she can see you, or something similar that will work for both of you.

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